Leaving high school and beginning the next chapter of your adult life at uni feels like a giant leap of independence. Leaving your parents’ nest and moving out feels more like growing wings and being promptly shoved off a cliff, hoping to the best that some survival instinct will kick in before you become a feathery soup of smoosh on the sidewalk.
This year I gingerly took flight and moved out of my childhood home. I left behind the comfort and food that my loving parents provided me for the past 22 years and joined a sharehouse right across the road from QUT’s Kelvin Grove campus (so no excuse for me to miss psychology tutorials). Somehow I didn’t experience an automatic boost in academic success from being geographically closer to uni. Studying out of home is hard. There are a lot more distractions readily available, suddenly you can have friends over every night of the week till 2AM. There is nobody to tell you off when you opt for Uber Eats instead of nutritional food for the fifth night in a row.
It’s a learning curve, but there are tools you can use to make the transition a bit more comfortable on your grades and overall peace of mind
- Consider your housemates: When you live with a group of people from different backgrounds, work/study commitments and levels of cleanliness, there can be some friction between what is expected. Be honest in your expectations and needs, and maybe be open to compromise when that house party you were planning falls on the night before your house mates final exam.
- Keep a routine: Without parents knocking on your door at 10.30PM saying ‘maybe it’s time you went to bed’ it can be hard maintaining a normal sleep routine, especially when there is no one to knock on your door again at 7.00 AM and the snooze button is oh so tempting. Trust me, after a few weeks of 2AM pass outs and 10 AM rises you’ll be feeling pretty gross and your text books will end up sounding like gibberish.
- Expect the unexpected: Even the best-made plans can go awry. You may have the perfect sharehouse, uni timetable, and job that pays the bills, but that situation can change in a minute. Housemates may decide to break lease, you may lose your job, your car may break down and getting into uni becomes a 1.5 hr journey.
Moving out is never a step you should rush. Before you fly the nest it’s important to think things through, make plans and budgets, an really assess whether it’s the right choice for you. For those of you relocating to Brisbane for study or just thinking about living independently this year, good luck and fly, FLY little birds !